So I’m wrapping up my self-care book for healers and helpers and it occurs to me I need to revamp it just a bit. In a conversation with my mom this morning about Periscope (get it, use it!) I’m yammering on and on about how I’ve thought for years that the Internet is our clumsy attempt to create the state of collective unconscious or “One-ness” that I believe we have on a spiritual level, in physical form. I’m teaching her about Periscope and the Twitter and the ever present hashtag when zing it hits me – #hashtags are how we choose what we see on the internet which is a perfect metaphor for how we choose what we “see” in life.
Our brains are our filter for the stream of information. Our experiences, our biases and opinions are by function the hashtags for our lives.
Whaaaat? No, really stay with me for a few minutes.
We #cats, we #dogs depending on what we want to view on Twitter and other social media right? We filter what we want to see in that moment by applying a hashtag to it. It’s the only way we have to wade through the stream of consciousness that is Twitter. Otherwise we’d go mad scrolling! We do that in life unconsciously – we #sadness, #success, #crappycars #stuckintraffic, etc. We all have those patterns. Don’t you know people, me, who are always the one to see the needy animal or hurting person in the room that 500 other people might not even notice? Can we not then use that as a metaphor for changing what and how we see life?
There is some science behind the fact that we see, notice, things in our environment that we’re thinking about, you can use the Google to find it. Martha Beck does a great exercise where she has you say the word blue over and over and then glance around and the blue things stand out, change the word to red and the same thing happens, change that to Cat that Needs A Home and you have my life ha! You may have experienced this when you were thinking about buying a nwe car; all of a sudden that car is seemingly everywhere!
New meditators or folks entering therapy experience this when they start personal growth. It seems like the Gates of Hell have risen up against you but what’s happened is you are now seeing clearly the complications that were there all along. It’s taking your blinders off and seeing what you have become numb to in your life and it can be shocking. It can also make you regret you ever started that *&$^+## meditation practice or therapy process in the first place!
So what’s your hashtag? What are you choosing to see, feel and experience in your daily life? It’s going to be the title to my book now because more and more I’ve become aware through this process that self-care is a concept and not a practice for so many helpers in the world. We’re good at talking it, not living it and I want to change that for as many people as I can because if we lose our helpers and healers where are we going to be as humans and animals? Are there enough youngsters to replace the ones who burn out and leave? I don’t think so plus I want to strengthen those who’ve been around awhile. We need the seasoned to train the new and while we’re training let’s model some for real, concrete, self-care work.
Think about it and put it in the comments below – What’s the hashtag for your life? For your business? What would you like it, them, to be?
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